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My favourite band in the world is coming to Amsterdam! Saw it on Facebook today, immediately checked tickets to see if they are not sold out already (concert is in February btw:) ) Lucky me, the sales only start next week and as a true dutch I put it in my agenda to buy them right in time.

The band is the XX – and why it’s favourite: first time I heard their song Heart Skipped a Beat like 6-7 years ago. For several years I had it as my alarm clock. And I still like the song!

When people ask me what music I like I always get lost- don’t think there is some particalar style I like and my favourite songs come from all sorts of bands and singers, but I am totally sure there is something in common between all of them. I call it sort of the “perfect background” music, nice melody and no matter how loud you put it the never feels like something is screaming in your ear. And it also doesn’t disturb my own (very messy) flow of thoughts.

And might be, for the first time in my life, I am ready to go to a concert by myself (the first moments of Bridget Jones come up in my mind).

  • looking through this post I realised I have no clue about the proper punctuation in English

Sweet november

-doctor, I want to stay under the blanket with a cup of tea all the time, what’s wrong with me??

– it’s normal, you have November

So this season started: still too far from holidays, but already cold like in Siberia! OK,  never been to Siberia, but i assume, the weather is no better than here 🙂

What annoys me most is that it’s dark all the time- going to work is still night, coming back home already night. Well, the good part is that is the perfect season for red wine! doesn’t seem as heavy anymore 🙂

Also I feel like staying home more, tea and movies are so much more attractive than dressing up and (oh gosh!) leaving the house! not to turn into a complete sociopath Dutch way of keeping agenda helps a lot! when you made plans, bought tickets when it was still warm, the thought of having your money wasted pushes in the direction of the door no matter the weather )))

But so far sharing my autumn favourite,the best tea I tried in a long time! If you live in the Netherlands check out this Simon Levelt shop, the tea selection is great.20161109_213144

And then the perfect evening at home, blanket, movie, tea and rituals candle

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So guys, no matter how bad is the weather, make the most out of it, use the time to enjoy yourself !

“if you are so smart then why are you so poor?”

I was making dinner yesterday night,my all-you-can-find curry, and was listening to a Russian psychology  programe on the radio. A woman called to ask her question: “my family keeps critisizing me about everything: my job, my looks, hobbies. this really offends me, but I know they just want all the best for me. how to deal with such heavy criticism and not ruin the relationships with them?”. so the psychologist says “the only reason people criticize others is the attempt to raise their own self esteem”.

Wow, if only that wise thought reached my ears like 2 years ago! in Russia we say “smarties learn from mistakes of others, fools learn from their own mistakes”. I am definitely the fool here, can’t do anything about that. but now the trick is how not to be an even bigger fool and not to fall into the same pit over and over again.

So the recommendation in that program was to immediately say that you don’t like hearing this criticism , and if this happens again you just stop the relationship with that person! as simple as that! for some reason I felt like I will offend someone if I tell them to keep their mouth shut about how imperfect I am. But now I realise I should have cared about my own feelings first.

Ah, and by the way, the solution to break the relationship doesn’t really work if you depend on those people. So if you are 30, living with your parents and unhappy about how they criticize you all the time- first move out and then make your own rules.;)

And that’s the dinner that came out of a 30min radio show!afterlight-1

Work work work

Tough day at work is when in the end of an 8-hour meeting you suddenly notice a tiny Twix candy under the table. It’s obvious someone stepped on it and probably it was there for weeks, but it’s still wrapped so you start discussing with your colleagues if you should actually eat it.

But really, office is just killing me sometimes. The air that goes out of the ventilation systems here is meant to fight every living creature. Hand, face, eyes (brain?) get as dry as the Sahara desert. Having a hand cream in the bag helps, but even better is to open the windows once in a while during the day. Outside air (at least in my country of fields and cows) is much richer with oxygen, this  also helps a lot with headaches and yawning all the time.

And cut off some caffeine! Probably if say no to coffee completely, you might seem a bit grumpy to colleagues J but try taking max 3-4 coffees a day, and a glass of water for each cup.  Still might seem like a lot, but not for local standards! A lot of Dutch drink like 10 cups a day, probably trying to replace sun energy with caffeine (you can recognize those by slightly grayish skin color).
drink-coffee-do-stupid-things-faster-and-with-more-energy-quote-1Also make your step counter happy – walk around the building during the lunch break, 10 min invested will make you feel so much better.

And remember: working hard is not the same as working smart 😉

It’s all about the balance

Today was second time I tried a group class at my gym- I’m delighted! For those of you who are “office veggies” just like me- Body Balance class will solve all the troubles!

First, the music is super relaxing. Then there is no one screaming in your ears to do the ‘harder stronger better’, no one jumps around like crazy- that’s too much stress after a full time working day.

All the exercises are slow but still making your muscles work. Lots and lots of stretching (you can be as gentle to yourself as you like). So for three days already no back panes, even thought I spend on my chair biggest part of the day. Even my shoulder blade that felt stuck for the last 3 weeks magically stopped bothering me. The class finishes in 10min meditation, official time for day dreaming or just a little nap 🙂

So that can be a great option for those who need their body as a friend, not an enemy. Mind gets in order as a bonus!