Guys, let’s be honest.. Btw how honest do you think you are?
What I noticed is that people (including myself) tend to think better about themselves than about others. “Oh I am such a well mannered person, and that I was rude to the waiter today-I was just tired, that’s a reason decent enough”. Such little lies won’t hurt, right?
How about being honest to others? Living in the Netherlands I heard a billion times about ‘Dutch directness’. What I have to say about it is that being impolite/tactless is not that same as being honest, and that’s the confusion for me. I expected the second but keep seeing the first.
And how about being honest with yourself? Not direct, thinking “you fat cow” when looking in the mirror, but namely honest. Saying to yourself “you are so bored with your life that can’t stop chewing” seems to be a different approach.
How often do you illude yourself? ‘It will change’ you think. ‘it’s tempory’. ‘I just smoke socially’. ‘I really tried’. ‘He will change his mind’. ‘I would have done that if I really wanted’.
To be honest..honesty is scary. Being honest to yourself in many cases means change. Insecurity. Starting from scratch. It’s all really tough. But the risk of not doing that is that one day years from now you will wake up and cry. Because you lived somebody else’s life. Because of all the opportunities you missed and the time you wasted.
Be honest and tell yourself what you like and what you don’t like. And have the guts to do something about it. Or to accept that but then be at peace with the situation.
This honesty will save you from major disappointments. And it is never too late to start practicing it! Make it your number one New Year’s resolution. “I will always be honest with myself”. And I will do that too 🙂